Thank you. I'm still working on it. When finished, I will publish. It's a long story with endless twists and turns.

I guess we are both members of the same club - The Society of the Betrayed.😎

Your story is similar to mine in some respects and different in others.

My former wife's treatment of me before I discovered her affair clearly qualifies as gaslighting. She tried to convince me that my presence was intolerable and the reason she wanted to leave - that it was all my fault and had nothing to do with her having an affair, which she was trying to conceal. She was unsuccessful as described in the story.

My wife left me to pursue a relationship with her cheating partner, but he never left his wife and his wife never knew of the affair. One year after leaving, my wife ended the affair (or so she claimed) and offered to resume our marriage. I agreed to that. In order to do so I, foolishly in retrospect, let Sharon go.

Six years later she resumed her affair with the same man (if she had truly ended it when she claimed). That's when we split permanently. His wife discovered the affair and threw him out of their home. My first wife's relationship with him lasted about another year after which she discovered that he was cheating on her. Cheaters cheat, that is their way.

Eight months after we split, I met my current wife. We have been together as a couple for 30 years. She had a cheating husband and a couple of abusive boyfriends.

When we met, she had two adult boys and I had one adult daughter. We have no children together. We have been accepted as members of each other's families. I no longer have any feelings for my former wife. She is my daughter's mother and I recognize her importance to my daughter.

I am grateful to my former wife. I would never have cheated and dismantled my family as she did; it's against my principles. Because she didn't share those principles, she allowed me to meet my current wife.