I am a member of the club. I, too, was betrayed - twice.

The first time, she left me; she moved out of our shared apartment and into her own. Then, she decided she wanted to end her affair and resume our marriage. I agreed. I think that means I forgave her, even though she expressed no remorse.

The second time, six years later, she moved out again; this time, for good. Her relationship with her cheating partner lasted until he cheated on her. Cheaters cheat, that is their way.

Less than a year later, I met the woman who is now my wife. That was 30 years ago.

Forgiving or not forgiving is irrelevant in my case. I rarely even think about my first wife. I am grateful to her. I would never have cheated, or dismantled our family as she did, but by her doing so, I was able to find my current wife. Life couldn't be better. Forgiveness is irrelevant.

If you are interested in the whole story, here is a preview link to my yet-to-be-published story that I am working on. Warning: it is a long story. The link below takes you to part 1. At the end of part 1, there is a link to part 2. A link in part 2 leads to part 3, etc. When I have finished writing and editing the whole story I will publish.

https://medium.com/@estwald/another-somebody-done-somebody-wrong-song-b3ba2b7cd2f3