I understand that my wife and I are incredibly fortunate to have encountered each other at just the right time. We sometimes talk about the improbable series of events that brought us together.
Many people marry unwisely, often due to a lack of full maturity. For similar reasons, they tend to blame their dissatisfactions with their lives on their spouses. They see abandoning their spouse and dismantling their family as the only solution. Thus they make no effort to seek real solutions to their unhappiness. Not wanting to be alone they seek a replacement for the spouse while remaining with them.
After finally parting with the spouse to pursue a life with the cheating partner, they find that their troubles have followed them.
You can't get away from yourself. Wherever you go, there you are.
One must know who he or she is before being able to identify someone suitable to share their life. One cannot know who appreciates him as he is until he knows who he is. We who are older and more experienced could provide counsel to the younger less experienced, but they characteristically do not listen.
I don't think that you are condoning cheating. Cindy, the author of the article seemed to be doing so. She implied that women are happier cheating because men are defective. She seemed to imply that because men are defective, women are entitled to cheat on them.
My comment was offering an alternative interpretation of the survey results (assuming the survey was accurate, which I doubt). Women who cheat are happier because women who cheat have less of a guilty conscience than men who cheat. Having a guilty conscience when transgressing against common decency suggests a less severe character defect.
I was the victim of a cheating wife, which is why I am so adamant in condemning cheaters. (Her cheating partner was a married man, so he was cheating too. I don't know which one of them was happier.😎) It's hard to imagine that a decent person would inflict this on somebody. It was quite an ordeal. It took place over a ten-year period before she finally flew the coop to be with her cheating partner. Their relationship lasted until he cheated on her. Cheaters cheat; that is their way. In less than a year I met my current wife. We have been a couple for 30 years.
I am grateful to my former wife. I would never have cheated or dismantled my family as she did; it's against my principles. I am thankful she did not have the same principles because her actions allowed me to meet my current wife. We are very happy together. If my former wife had the same principles as I did, my current wife and I would never have found each other.
I am writing the story of my ten-year ordeal. It is a long story since ten years is a long time. It is divided into several parts.
If you are interested it starts here:
You display more wisdom about marriage than you suggested in your previous comment.
