I already know how to behave as a mature, responsible adult. I know how to treat people with common courtesy and to offer due respect. I don't need feminists to teach me any of those things.
I am not obliged to direct effort towards promoting feminists' social goals, particularly when those goals conflict with my interests. Admonishments or denouncements will have no influence on me. Instead, if you want me to actively promote your social goals, you must provide me with a suitable incentive.
I am not responsible for your fears and aversions. I am not responsible for your aversion to drawing attention to yourself.
I have described my general impression of feminism in this comment:
It is indeed "nice to be me." I am quite satisfied with who I am. I am sorry if you are not.
