Apparently I misunderstood your intention, which was to alert women, rather than to assert that men are obliged to conform to your expectations.

My misunderstanding arose as a result of your characterization of men who do not conform to your dating expectations as "immature." Characterizing them as immature suggests that they have an inherent flaw that demands correction. It suggests that, in your view, men are obliged to correct themselves to conform to your expectations. I now understand that you were hoping to advise women who are seeking a companion with whom to share their lives to be alert for men whose intentions in dating are less serious.

It would seem that the term "courting" would be a more appropriate term than "dating" to refer to the process in which you were engaged. Most of the men you encountered were dating rather than courting.

Courting refers to the process of seeking a companion with whom to share a life. Dating refers to the process of seeking a companion with whom to share some fun and recreation.

If you had refrained from characterizing men whose dating intentions are different from yours then I would have been less likely to misinterpret your message.